Wednesday, January 20, 2016

Thursday, January 14, 2016

When Little Ones Understand Death is Irreversible

Ever had a good intention that ended up being really sour? Mid November we sat down to let the kids watch Song of the Sea. It's an internationally acclaimed children's movie chronicling the adventures of a brother - sister duo, based on an Irish folklore about selkies. Winner right? That would be a resounding NO!

It's not your typical Disney animation. In fact, it could be interpreted by little eyes as a little spooky. Throw in a few scary situations, eerie music and the death of the siblings' mother and you have a combined disaster. Seven year old Stinky was pretty upset at the end, but quickly got over it. Six year old Blinky however cried hysterically for days and feared that the DH or I would die like the Mom in the movie. Of course we reassured her (as best we could) that nothing would happen and she didn't need to be worried. Slowly she began to believe us.

Just a few weeks later, we saw The Good Dinosaur over Thanksgiving Break, which I wrote about here. Yeah, total setback. With the exception of the week we were on vacation and she was bunking with my Mom, she has not been sleeping well, often coming into our bed. She has also had moments of sadness at random times throughout the day at home, school and ballet. After talking with her teacher, I reached out to a family counselor who reassured us that after she's had sufficient time to process death being irreversible, these solemn moments will pass. And of course we will keep reassuring her how much she is loved and that by the grace of God Mommy and Daddy aren't going anywhere.

The DH and I sure know how to pick 'em. We feel pretty rotten about traumatizing the kids in spite of thinking we had properly screened the movies. However we did better the third time around with Alvin and the Chipmunks Road Trip over Christmas Break. Total score!

Tuesday, January 12, 2016

Quote of the Week

If you live in the south, then you know last night was the championship game between Clemson and Alabama (whether you wanted to or not). Our school encouraged the students to wear red yesterday to support Alabama. Stinky was happy to oblige since it meant a uniform-free day. Blinky on the other hand had this to say:

"I am not wearing a red shirt today. I go for Auburn."

Wednesday, January 6, 2016


We have a chalkboard wall in our laundry / mud room. Typically the kids scribble on it, but I've always thought it was a good place to leave inspirational quotes to read before we head out for the day. When the DH and kids went to sleep last night, I got to work.

It's not Pinterest-worthy, but the kids did notice this morning and thought it was a great idea. Even Stinky...and that says a lot.

Wherever you are and whatever you have to do today, make it a good one.

Monday, January 4, 2016


Was 2015 a blur for anyone else? I don't typically make New Year's resolutions because I usually forget about them after January. However, I have decided to work on achieving a few goals in 2016. Here goes:

  1. Try to be more patient with the kids for the years are going by way to quickly. While Stinky does require more discipline than Blinky, I want to work toward having more tender moments with both kiddos.
  2. Appreciate what the DH is able to do around the house. The DH has a pretty demanding job and works harder than anyone I know. His job enables me to work part-time to better take care of our family. So even when the kids are running amok and avoiding homework, there is dog poop on the carpet, dinner is burning, the laundry is piled up and I am about the lose my mind, I really will try to remember that he does make breakfast. :)
  3. Try to keep clutter to a minimum. I've already started cleaning out and donating unused items. As long as I stay on track, and not accumulate new junk, I should be ok.
  4. Incorporate daily exercise into my daily routine. A little over a year ago, I was a size 4. Since then, I've gained about 12 pounds, mooned my fellow church members when my too-tight dress split and retired several outfits that sadly no longer fit. I blame age, but suspect it has more to do with my lack of exercise. I want to change that.
  5. Focus on the positive. I know this will be challenging. I consider myself a pragmatist. I work with the cards I've been dealt and tend not to sugarcoat anything, even with the kids. So living / working in the deep South, in an election year, yeah, I have my work cut out for me.
Whichever route you choose, resolutions or goals, good luck!